SEX IN DIALOGUE
A blog dedicated to demystifying sex topics.
Food, Sex & Molecules
Production of sex hormones requires proper nutrient balance as well as good mitochondrial functioning (the energy powerhouse of the cells). If I'm working with a client who is complaining of low desire or sexual dysfunction of any kind, I pay close attention to whether they follow a low-fat and/or high carb diet.
Responsive Desire
Welcome to responsive desire. It's craving and longing sensory seduction through your partner's touch, taste, smell, sound, sight. Because it's physical leaning in nature, this type of longing thrives in an environment where our senses are activated and the subtleties of pleasure are slowly explored.
Desire - Part I
Couples do tend to experience a higher degree of spontaneous desire at the beginning of their relationship. If we, however, use this as baseline for what is “normal,” rather than seeing it as a different type of longing, then we are at risk of letting the sexual connection we had with our partner completely wither.
Open Relationships
Berlinerin, feminist, friend. I couldn't think of someone better to start out this series. ‘Interviews on Love’ aims to explore the wide spectrum of relationship models out there, however unconventional they may be, and create a safe space in which we can learn from each other’s experiences.
Sexual Trauma
The experience of rape is too big, too complex, too raw, too painful for me to explore in a single post. I hope that by breaking it up into smaller pieces, and by bringing to light the many ways in which arousal non-concordance is experienced, it will reach those that need to understand it, make sense of it, heal from it.
Arousal Non-Concordance
In a perfect scenario everything is aligned — your head matches your heart which matches your body’s response. In many instances, however, this is not the case. Different systems within our bodies are working independently from each other leading to confusing and frustrating situations at best, traumatizing events at worst.
Know Your Bits
Our school systems have been notoriously bad at providing comprehensive sex education. If you know the difference between your vulva and vagina, amazing. If you don't, here it goes…
A Word on Gender Violence
As suggested in the essay “Violence of Privacy” part of the reason why violence against women is so rampant in our society is precisely because it is kept private: silenced by men, denied by women wanting to disassociate themselves from victimhood, ignored by the state, and shut out by the general public.
Chlamydia
When to get tested? At least once a year or any time you have had unprotected sex. If you happen to have a new partner every single week (trying to think of all the possible scenarios here), then you should aim, at the very least, to get tested every three months. The incubation period for Chlamydia is between 14 and 21 days - something to keep in mind when making an appointment since in most cases it can take up to two full weeks from the time of exposure before the pathogen is detected.
Beyond statistics
The physical act of sex is dependent on too many factors for us to narrow it down to just ‘did you use a condom?’ Until we don’t bring into the discussion consent, trust, age, level of education and cultural values we will not be able to have any sort of meaningful impact as educators and health professionals.